Love Marriage vs. Arranged Marriage

 

Relationship Guidance may be required in both types of marriages. But which one is better? Let’s find out. 

Everyone feels curious to know about Love Marriage Vs Arranged Marriage.Both of them have pros & cons. Both can be very good and can be very bad.some people love marriage over Arrange marriage and vice versa. No one is wrong in any way. If the marriage is successful between 2 people.

In Love Marriage, You come to know the person beforehand about his likes & dislikes.

You come to know the good qualities & bad qualities and behavior of the person

In Love Marriage, families are not involved as it is usually the girl or boy to marry a person of his choice.

A lot many times family don’t support it and prefer to not get involved with their child’s decision.

If the person is in love with the person and vice versa.

People like to marry among friends & relatives who are supportive of their decision.

It’s important in love marriage to take each other parents into consideration.

People need to convince them to accept their better half and support them.

This can take the time or can get rejected depending on the different factors.

people who are in love focus on marrying the love of their life.

There are many factors to consider in love marriage. They are as follows:-

Religion, height, language, colour,veg or non-veg, Education, etc.

Love marriage is successful if the family is supportive and accepts the girl/boy in their family.

As compared to Arrange marriage, you are aware of the person in love marriage. You can make a wise decision about whether to get married or not to the person.

In an Arranged marriage, you don’t know anything about the person and only come to know more after ur engagement.

In an Arranged marriage, both side families involved. so the guy/girl can take the right decision for his life by considering all family member’s decisions.

The possibility of finding the wrong person is less. Any decision to take depends on many factors.

Families getting involved are always wanting good for their child. So till the time family members are not convinced.

They will not go-ahead for accepting the girl or boy to get married and become a part of their family.

In an arranged marriage, the family celebrates by inviting their relatives, family & everyone know.

In arrange marriages there is a lot of give & take from each other’s family. This usually is not found in love marriages.

Guy/girl plans everything in advance for their honeymoon. Which place to visit and what kind of clothes to make for all occasions.

so people looking to get married have both the options to go with. It’s that the factors have to look for before going ahead with any of them.

I would prefer an arranged marriage. Even though I don’t know the girl/boy before. But I am aware of the girl/boy family.

My family knows about their family. so if anything goes wrong. I have my family back behind me.

So it’s ur life and make the best decision in the interest of our family



Your parents have started making subtle hints about you getting married soon. Only half joking, they say your uncle or aunt knows someone who would be really perfect for you. “Maybe you should just meet him/her once before you say ‘no’”. You have this scary feeling that they won’t just be joking about it in the near future. For many modern young people of today’s generation, an arranged marriage does not hold much attraction. However, it is a fact that about 90 % of Indians still have arranged marriages. While not all of these marriages are successful, some of them certainly are.

A marriage is not just a union of two people but a coming together of two families, two social networks which are now more closely linked than ever before. An arranged marriage focuses on this family union. While looking for a partner for their son or daughter, parents will first check if the potential bride or groom’s family is compatible to theirs. Do they share the same background (cultural and religious), socio-economic status, level of education, similar values? If so, they feel they can safely marry their son or daughter into this family, knowing that they will be taken care of and live a life quite similar to their parents’. Security and stability seem to be the most valued things looked for in an arranged marriage. While this might seem like an unemotional way to go about it, the value of a stable marriage is undeniable. Perhaps this could be one of the reasons why India has such a low divorce rate. 


A statistic says that ‘love’ in an arranged marriage apparently reaches its peak when the couple have been married about 5 yrs. In contrast, the peak of a love marriage would already have been reached before this time and started waning. This could be because people enter love marriages with a lot of expectations. The most common one is that those passionate, romantic feelings you are feeling now will stay the same for the rest of your lives. After the first few months when the honeymoon stage is over and the mundane realities of marriage have set in, people begin to feel dissatisfied wondering if their partner still loves them . In contrast, one might enter an arranged marriage with much lower expectations and not expect everything to work out immediately. 

There is no perfect formula to make a marriage work. Both arranged and love marriages have their own strengths and faults. It's up to you whatever  journey makes you feel like going through even when there are harsh times.


When I talk to people who are about to get into an arranged marriage, I often sense that many of them feel a strong sense of obligation and duty to their parents. They feel that they HAVE to accept their parents’ choice of a life partner for them. To do otherwise seems to be perceived as disrespectful to their parents and a betrayal to their family. Sometimes such people enter a marriage in which they know they will be unhappy just so that their parents are happy. On the other hand, love marriage is also often misunderstood as an expression of freedom or rebelling against one’s parents. Finding a balance between one’s own desires and satisfying our parents’ wishes is a hard task which we all struggle with


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